We know that the excitement of being the bride’s mom is finally creeping in and it is even more challenging to contain the urge to make the announcements yourself, isn’t it? Tread cautiously, there is a lot more coming your way. Being the mother of the bride, you are for sure going to be strained by an infinite number of operations but there are certain things you should not worry about and let the bride and the groom to take care of.
Here are some helpful hints where you should not indulge in:
DON’T SPILL THE BEANS BEFORE TIME
It is understandable that you must be flying high in the sky with happiness and euphoria as your little one is getting engaged. But unless the bride and the groom have announced the news, you hold your horses and let them break it to whoever they want to.
ASK BEOFRE INVITING
You might be having many guests on your list who “are a must” to be invited, do not storm ahead and send them invitations without conferring with the bride and the groom. They might be on a budget and want to invite a specific number of friends and family only, as they might not like to instruct you otherwise.
FOLLOW THE TRADITION
Be a sport and communicate with the groom’s mother about the mother of the bride dresses. It is certainly not a competition that who is going to dress up the best, rather it is a tradition you must follow to dress up equally elegantly as the mother of the groom dresses. Who wears a bigger hat or whose dress color is more vibrant is not the concern. It’s about being cordial with the new members of the family.
LEND A HELPING HAND
If nothing else, it will only be nicer on your part to offer your help in assisting whichever way during the wedding planning process. Your daughter will be more than happy to designate a task or two to you as she can trust you blindly.
PROMISE WHAT YOU CAN DELIVER- DELIVER WHAT YOU PROMISSED
Know your strength first, only then commit for a certain thing which you can accomplish as is and in the given amount of time. It will be extremely panicky for the bride and the groom to find anything inadequate in the nick of time.
COMPARISON IS THE LAST THING THEY’D LIKE TO HEAR
This can be the most derogatory comment coming from a mother. Julia from the high school had the most lavish, extravagant and fanciful wedding while yours does not look as grandiose and the flower arrangements are not as attractive as hers. This may create hurt feelings when they are on a budgeted wedding planning.
DON’T PLAY PUSH & PULL
Yes, you can put forward your advice or anything you think will look better or will be less expensive. But you cannot and must not push them to have bright yellow flowers covering the aisle if they don’t want to. Your job is to be supportive of both the bride & the groom. Do not act like their boss.